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NEW AUTHOR ALERT! “Memories of My Mommy” by Peaches Dean!

Today I really wanted to share you all the amazing-ness that is Peaches Dean! She’s a friend, client, and spectacular woman all wrapped into one! Last year I had the pleasure of photographing her author’s “corner” photos for her upcoming book “Memories of My Mommy”.


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Before and during our shoot, she gave me the breakdown of what inspired her to write the book and who the book was for. This is what she had to say: 

The book is for every girl and even every woman who has lost their mother. [The book is] suitable for boys [as well], but I really want to target young girls ages 4-12. Even though I condensed my very own healing process [into] a 10 page children’s book, it took me almost a year to write it! It was a very uprooting and hurtful/painful process. peaches2

I was 14 when I lost my mother and didn’t begin to heal from it until I was 23. I didn’t even realize how her death alone negatively impacted my relationship with women… and even men. [Since I’ve experienced the loss of my mother and can witness to how God can help heal you], I want to help [other] children [to] trust God to heal them from [any] family deaths they may experience [in their lifetime]. My book will include a small journal section in the back to help children [be interactive in their healing] and remain positive [while working through] the loss of their mother, grandmother, aunt, cousin, or anyone who was near and is near to their heart. “Memories of My Mommy” is only the beginning! 

From the moment she broke everything down to me, I realized just how strong she is; not only for living through such a traumatic experience, but GROWING from it. Being of the Christian faith myself, I know that one of the main attributes that separates us from the rest of the world is HOW we react to events in our lives. Where most people would go crazy, kill someone, or turn to a life of crime…Peaches (while admittedly struggling) ultimately turned to God and allowed Him to heal her from the inside out. He didn’t just put a ‘band-aid’ on it like most of us would do as humans; but He truly healed her AND IS STILL healing her. And perhaps what I love THE MOST about her entire process, is that instead of saying “ok, this has happened to me, thanks Lord for healing me. Amen” – she is taking what she has learned and turned into a physical form of medicine that can help COUNTLESS numbers of other children who may not know God yet or who may be having a hard time coping.

 Ms. Dean has been working tirelessly for over a year to SELF PUBLISH her book and the time has arrived for the world to support and be healed in the process.


 Her book “Memories of My Mommy” will be released no later than December 16th, 2013.

So be on the lookout!

It’s not too late to help support Peaches’ efforts !!!


Visit and [LIKE] the Official

“Memories Of My Mommy Facebook Page: 

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Can You Help Me Decide on WHEN To Launch My Business? (SURVEY)


Hey guys! I would REALLY love it if you did this quick 1 minute survey that will help me judge whether or not I should move forward with launching my Media Consulting Business between now and next year!

ALL OF YOUR HONEST feedback is greatly appreciated! ❤


– Joc


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The Concert Life — I’ve Been About It For Awhile Now


98 Degrees
Aaron Camper
Bishop Paul S. Morton
Bow Wow
Chrisette Michelle

Charlie Wilson

Dorothy Norwood
Eryka Badu
Fred Hammond
Hey Champ
Israel & New Breed
Janelle Monae
John P. Kee
Krik Franklin
Lejune Thompson
Lupe Fiasco
Luther Barnes
Nick Cannon
Roman GianArthur
Shirley Caesar
Smokie Norful
Tasha Cobbs
Tatiyana Ali
The Cool Kids
Tye Tribbett & GA
Wanda Barnes 
Yolanda Adams
Zacardi Cortez

These are all of the people I’ve had the pleasure of seeing perform live in concert. I didn’t realize it until this week that I’ve really been able to hear some amazingly talented people! I think the first concert I really remember going to was when I was like in the 3rd or 4th grade and it was to see Yolanda Adams & John P. Kee. My first “tween” concert was in 5th grade when I went to hear 98 Degrees, Tatiyana Ali, & Nick Cannon. I thought I was TOO cool. haha Prayerfully I’ll be blessed to see tons more in the future! Nothing like a great concert story to tell your kids!

What concerts have YOU been to? Let me know in the comments section below; who knows, we may have been at the same concert! ❤



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After Waiting 7 Years, I Finally Got To See Janelle Monae In Concert!

Last night was beyond epic!


BACKGROUND: For most of you who know me personally, I have changed drastically from the young, partying college girl I once was, to the more sensible, Christ led woman I am now. With this change came a huge struggle. If you knew me back in my college days, I and the girls I rolled with were as close to the ‘life of the party’ as you could get! I was extraverted, loved being around people, and would be up for almost anything silly. Since getting more serious about my Christ walk as an adult, I have learned that with wisdom comes knowing what you can and can NOT handle. I loved to dance. I was a partier. I was a social drinker. Not because I HAD to be at a particular party/club; but because I loved being around people. Unfortunately, all the dumb decisions I’ve ever made during college were made while I was under the influence of Mr.Skyy, Mr.Goose, or Mrs.Burnetts. THEREFORE, I don’t club now because I know that the probability of me drinking or getting back into the old swing of things is highly probable.


BACK TO NOW –>  Not only am I selective in where I go; but what type of music I listen to also applies. I LOOOOOOOVE music so pretty much everything in my life is associated with a song or era of sound. These days I mostly listen to Gospel/Contemporary Christian music, but one gal I don’t mind perking an ear up to is Janelle Monae aka The Electric Lady bka Cindi Mayweather!


Last night I had the opportunity to cash in on an experience I’ve been waiting on for since 2006 ….2-0-0-6 you hear me?! With my little brother Rich at my side, we dance like our lives depended on it at the NC stop of Q.U.E.E.N.S ‘Electric Lady Tour’ and BOY ‘Cindi’ did not disappoint! From the moment I saw “that girl” in 2006 who put her crinkly fro into the same poofy bouffant my mom made me wear for 4th grade picture day…I was sold. Big Boi saw into the future when he put her in that Morris Brown video. Ever since then I’ve been following Janelle and her music.


 I don’t think I have ever in life been to a concert (Christian or secular) where the artist came back for not 1….not 3…BUT FOUR encore performances! I mean last night’s concert was truly an experience. I can rock with Janelle because many of her songs speak on being yourself and self expression. Now mind you, I don’t agree with ALL of her views on certain subjects, but for the most part I can still roll with her.


But enough of my ramblings…check out a compilation of pics!

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–         Joc


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Unwritten Black People Rules & the Black Kids Rules For Survival

I’ve been following The Playmakers, KevOnStage, & Official ZayZay/JoJo for a year now and you’ll see why!

Watch KevOnStage’s video and then at the end, click on the video of his sons Official ZayZay/JoJo to see Black Kids Rules for Survival!

You’ll be cracking up!

– Joc



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White Writer Says “They (Black People) Are Still Our Slaves”…Is He Right?

CBS’ Dee Lee recieved a letter almost 10 years ago from an [unnamed] white author who had a mouthful to say about African Americans and Finance. Though these may not be Dee Lee’s personal views, she decided to read this aloud on her radio show. Here’s how the transcript of the letter reads:

Dee Lee, CFP
Harvard Financial Educators

Dee Lee

THEY ARE STILL OUR SLAVES We can continue to reap profits from the
Blacks without the effort of physical slavery Look at the current
methods of containment that they use on themselves: IGNORANCE, GREED,

Their IGNORANCE is the primary weapon of containment. A great man once
said, “The best way to hide something from Black people is to put it in a book.” We now live in the Information Age. They have gained the opportunity to read any book on any subject through the efforts of their fight for freedom, yet they refuse to read. There are numerous books readily available at Borders, Barnes & Noble, and, not to mention their own Black Bookstores that provide solid blueprints to reach economic equality (which should have been their fight all along),
but few read consistently, if at all.

GREED is another powerful weapon of containment. Blacks, since the abolition of slavery, have had large amounts of money at their disposal. Last year they spent 10 billion dollars during Christmas, out of their 450 billion dollars in total yearly income (2.22%).

Any of us can use them as our target market, for any business venture we care to dream up, no matter how outlandish, they will buy into it. Being ! primarily a consumer people, they function totally by greed. They continually want more, with little thought for saving or investing.

They would rather buy some new sneaker than invest in starting a business. Some even neglect their children to have the latest Tommy or FUBU, And they still think that having a Mercedes, and a big house gives them
“Status” or that they have achieved their Dream.

They are fools! The vast majority of their people are still in poverty
because their greed holds them back from collectively making better

With the help of BET, and the rest of their black media that often
broadcasts destructive images into their own homes, we will continue to
see huge profits like those of Tommy and Nike. (Tommy Hilfiger has even
jeered them, saying he doesn’t want their money, and look at how the
fools spend more with him than ever before!). They’ll continue to show
off to each other while we build solid communities with the profits
from our businesses that we market to them.

SELFISHNESS, ingrained in their minds through slavery, is one of the
major ways we can continue to contain them. One of their own, Dubois
said that there was an innate division in their culture. A “Talented
Tenth” he called it. He was correct in his deduction that there are
segments of their culture that has achieved some “form” of success.
However, that segment missed the fullness of his work. They didn’t read
that the “Talented Tenth” was then responsible to aid The Non-Talented
Ninety Percent in achieving a better life. Instead, that segment has
created another class, a Buppie class that looks down on their people
or aids them in a condescending manner. They will never achieve what we
have. Their selfishness does not allow them to be able to work together
on any project or endeavor of substance. When they do get together,
their selfishness lets their egos get in the way of their goal. Their so-called help organizations seem to only want to promote their name without making any real change in their community.

They are content to sit in conferences and conventions in our hotels,
and talk about what they will do, while they award plaques to the best
speakers, not to the best doers. Is there no end to their selfishness?
They steadfastly refuse to see that TOGETHER EACH ACHIEVES MORE (TEAM)

They do not understand that they are no better than each other because
of what they own, as a matter of fact, most of those Buppies are but
one or two pay checks away from poverty. All of which is under the
control of our pens in our offices and our rooms.

Yes, we will continue to contain them as long as they refuse to re ad,
continue to buy anything they want, and keep thinking they are “helping”
their communities by paying dues to organizations which do little other
than hold lavish conventions in our! hotels . By the way, don’t worry
about any of them reading this letter, remember, ‘THEY DON’T READ!!!!
transcript via

Thinking on where African Americans are today, do you agree with any of what he said? I’m not talking about the TONE in which wrote the letter, but its actual CONTENT.

Do we have more work to do? Will there ever be a time where African Americans country/world wide will be equal in terms of economic and socioeconomic status?

Can we incite our youth to foster a love for reading and educate themselves more on launching businesses, etc?

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Learn to Let Go of The Past

“The only reason it’s hard to “let go” is because we believe the lie that we “need” them. Stop believing that lie….Stop trying to saw ‘sawdust’. Once something is in your past, stop trying to re-open doors God has closed. Some places God is taking you will arrive alone, but not lonely. He is always with you.” – Quentin McCall

Most of you know that I am an avid follower of Quentin McCall. The way he ties in real life application with what the Bible says is uncanny — you can’t help but love it! I know he’s probably been through the storm because the depth and truth that comes from his ‘advice/posts’ hits right at the heart of whatever matter you’re going through relationship wise. If he’s just saying what sounds good….then shoot, he’s doing a good job of keeping up appearances! haha

Tonight he posted the above few quotes and it’s wild how that content ties into the post of CLOSURE that I made earlier today. (well look at God). If you’ve ever dealt with a relationship…saved or not….we’ve all experienced a time in where we just wanted to take a peek into our past to make sure we made the right decision or if that person had changed enough to give the relationship another try. COME ON! ADMIT IT! I’ll be the first to say I have before. That was like the story of my college years. You know that boo you had back in the day or the guy you dated freshman year but reconnected by the time graduation rolled around. YEP, been there done that. Deep down inside you know it’s a waste of time, but you’re single…they’re single…no use in being ‘lonely’ right? So why not.

Thinking on it, I wish I hadn’t. haha BUT hey, what are you gonna do?! — continue to do better, that’s what.

Through years of personal experience and maturation, I’ve come to realize that relationship wise, if it didn’t work 3 years ago, it’s not going to work now. There is always a reason why you breakup with someone in the first place. Very rarely does anything change. Now if it’s like 20 years later that you both meet up and you’re both single, I’ll give you a little rope on that. People actually DO have the ability to change (I feel) over a LARGE period of time. But if you’re talking 1-10 years then NAW…you can keep that relationship behind you boo.

It boggles my mind (now) when friends around my age get caught up in old ‘college routine’ and recycle girlfriends/boyfriends because they’re lonely or meet up and feel like there still may be something there.

If you are now an avid bible reader, regular church goer, stopped drinking, stopped doing drugs and all that jazz — why on God’s green earth would you think it would be worth it to hook back up with your ex (who still does the same stuff). NEGATIVE.

If a girl/guy cheated on you back in high school/college because they were “stupid & not ready to settle”, but miraculously were ready to try again like 5 months later….NEGATIVE run the other way quickly. While people CAN change virtually overnight, it usually involves some traumatic experience or an act of God. Either way, it’s best to stay by yourself and walk the other way.

So Quentin…I feel you on this one my dear! Keep giving the knowledge to the people!

– Joc

WANT TO CATCH UP on the past I made earlier today??  

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CLOSURE. Do You Really Need It?

This past week I saw a post that definitely spoke to me from AJ Johnson’s INSTAGRAM page. For those of you who don’t know, AJ is the actress that played Jody’s mom on “Baby Boy” and Sidney’s friend Sharane in House Party”. She essentially gave up acting a few years ago and followed her calling of health, fitness, and awareness. At 50 (if you see her you won’t believe it) she drops knowledge every day on her Insta or AlrightTV Youtube Channel that speaks to being a healthier person physically and mentally. AJJOHNSON

But back to the point. The post AJ made (seen here) spoke to the subject of CLOSURE. Let’s face it. Most of us are wired to believe that in order for us to properly move on from an issue or person, we need to have at least of smidge of it. AJ, interestingly enough, called attention to the fact that we don’t always need it to move on; that sometimes LACK of “proper” closure is God’s way of closing the door for us. When I read this I had to honestly sit and reflect on the times in my life where I didn’t get the closure I wanted to get from a situation and of how it bugged me so bad that I didn’t receive it. 


 The AJ Johnson in my mind replied, “YEP! You better believe it baby girl!” 

I know as an adult that there will simply be times where you don’t get the closure you want and have to accept it; but looking at a “cliff hanger” situation from the point that God has spiritually closed it FOR you is mind blowing! It’s like the hugest OHHHHHHH-moment I’ve had in a while. It all makes sense now!

 That boyfriend that fell off the face of the earth back in college, the job I applied for in where I never did get that ‘call back’ , that friend that I had a blow up with back in high school……in all of those situations, I never got the chance to physically sit down or call and talk to iron out the “whys” and the “hows” and clearly determine the “what nows”. It irked me for the longest and eventually, I had no choice but to get over it. Even today I have no clue if some of those people are even still alive or if that job is still open. But some of those ‘cliff hanger’ folks and I have had the opportunity to cross paths years down the road and simply closed everything with a nod

but now more than ever I know that God had His hand in every situation.


Just think if I would’ve still been with that ‘guy’ – I probably would’ve never found out that he was a hoe and kept dating him. That in turn would’ve probably exposed me to embarassment, AIDS/HIV/STDS or even pregnancy. WHEW SO glad God closed that door for me! What about that high school friend with whom I never spoke to after we had a huge blow up? I could’ve gone to their house and confronted them instead of letting it be. Who knows what could’ve happened or what jail we’d be in. haha Thanks to God spiritually closing that door, years passed before I saw them again and instead of reacting in the heat of the moment (like we probably would have back in school), we were older, wiser, and were able to actually carry on a decent convo then go on our way. OH and that job offer that I never got a call back from…it all worked out because instead of sitting and waiting around for an opportunity, God inspired me spiritually and incited my hands to create my own opportunity and now I’m in the process of launching my own business venture.


So for all of you reading this post, how about take 3-5 minutes to reflect on a time where you felt like you never got the closure you were searching for.

1) Write it down on a scrap piece of paper or word document.

2) Now take a few extra minutes to think about how your life would be if you got ‘the closure you were seeking’.

Would it really have made a positive difference in your life? Would it really have made your day that much better to have a clear cut answer? Would you be a better person if you had been able to get that closure?


Now take a quick look at your life now…the one WITHOUT physical closure.

Are you really that bad off because you never got the answers YOU were looking for? Did a better opportunity come along that made you forget the person or opportunity that ‘left you hanging’ in the past? Aren’t you glad that God took care of it for you?


I pray this speaks to someone because it SHO did (and yes, I said sho) speak to me. The next time someone ‘leaves me hanging’ I will not only take it in stride, but thank God for saving me the energy. After all, who has time for mess?! Not I; and neither should YOU?


– Joc



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As Announced Earlier, I’m Planning to Launch My Own Media Consulting Business!


As I announced earlier this week, I’m in the planning stages of officially launching my own Media Consulting business.

I plan to cater primarily to small businesses, non profits, indie artists, and up-and-coming creative professionals.


Let’s face it…when you’re CEO of yourself, you have to wear every hat imaginable!

Social media marketing, website content creation, press kit formation and resume writing are the LAST things you want on your plate. That’s where I come in. Let me use the skills I’ve developed over the years to help get YOUR brand to the people you want to reach!


Since I’m in the planning phase, I’ll be using this time to build up a list of potential clients (that’s where YOU come in). If you SERIOUSLY believe you’d want me to take you on as a client, email with the subject line “Media Consulting” and as a BONUS, I’ll provide your first résumé, LinkedIn OR Marketing consultation for FREE!


Still wondering about what it is I will offer? Here is a  peek into the full list of services!

Hope to hear from you soon!

– Joc


  • Website Copywriting

  • Training or Employee Manual Copywriting

  • Résumé Creation/Critique

  • Blog Creation/Management

  • Press Release & Press Kit Creation/Consulting

  • Interview Consulting

  • Marketing Consulting

  • Social Media Marketing Management & Creation

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Stop weeping over the people that left you….

“Stop weeping over the people that left you. They must decrease from your life that Christ may increase in your life!” – Bishop T.D. Jakes


I want to start this post off by typing “BISHOP, YOU BETTA PREACH!”

If you are a Christian over the age of 18 you can probably identify with how I feel because you’ve been there…done that…and shot the film!

jakesThere were SOOOO many times in my life where people flipped the script on me and little ole naïve Jocelyn thought it was something wrong with her. I hate to say it but it’s true. I’ve had friends who I thought were probably going to be right beside me at my wedding; and then out of nowhere, they walked out of my life. And I’m not lying or tooting my own horn when I tell you that EVERY SINGLE ONE of those people who did me wrong have come back across my path — humbled.

Because I had great Christian guides (my parents), I learned to buck up , get my little cry out, pick myself up, and keep it moving.

Just take a moment to think on a best friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, or even family member that has betrayed you in some way.  Yes you loved and cared for them; but think about your life BEFORE they walked away and think about your life AFTER. If you can say life got better….if you can say opportunities and blessings started to drop in your lap more frequently….if you can say you felt happier, lighter, and better about yourself – it was God who removed those folk from your life so He could help guide you into the purpose that He has for you. If you don’t get anything else I’ve said here, never forget this….if you have a destiny ordained by God (and all of us do), He will separate you from people or things you otherwise wouldn’t separate yourself from.


I mean if you truly take the time to think about it, there were people in your past who are no good for you. You may have even KNOWN IT; but you still tried to hold on and hope something would change.

God tries to save us the trouble and have the OTHER PARTY walk away…but if we are stubborn and kick, and scream instead of letting them go…God will take His hand and FORCE a separation that most times hurts a lot worse than it would if we would have let them walk on out of our lives.

Instead of that guy you’re with saying “this isn’t going to work” – you hold on, get pregnant AND then dumped after it’s all said and done. Instead of letting that shady business partner go into business for themselves, you try to hold on end up getting thousands of dollars stolen AND YOUR name tarnished because you  are doing business with that person.tornapart

When I think about those people that were cut out of my life (and being totally honest here) I probably wouldn’t have distanced myself away from them if THEY didn’t walk out of my life first. As sad as it sounds, it’s true. I loved my friends. I really cared for those boyfriends. I wanted to do business with those people…but God knew that somewhere down the line if I stayed hooked up to those people, I would never grow as close to Him as I have now. He knew that I would only settle with the world’s good things instead of His best. HECK YEAH it hurt to be apart from some of those people, but years down the line I look at where I am ….and I look at where there are and all I can do is……..…

EHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! Somebody CUE THE ORGAN! II-III-I-II need some feet stomping!!!!! THANK YA LORD!!!!! HALLELUJAH!!!!

……..Whew…please forgive me. Had to get a cyber praise break in real quick! But you get what I’m saying?! I would be one sorry excuse for a woman if I stayed hooked up to those friends I was getting drunk with, or that good for nothing boyfriend I was laid up with, or that business partner who was ghetto and bootlegged as all get out.

As you go forward with you life, really meditate and think about what Bishop Jakes said and APPLY IT.  Stop weeping over that boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife that cheated on you and left you. Stop weeping over that ‘so called friend’ who did you wrong 20 years ago. Stop weeping over that mother or father who abandoned you. At the end of the day, what the enemy meant for evil…The Father meant for YOUR good. Every experience is a stepping stone; and it’s up to US to take those stones and place them upon one another so we can climb higher and higher towards our purpose. If we spend too much time crying over those “stones” that were thrown at us…God can’t  give us the strength to pick them up and build Himself up inside of us.

Ya’ll have a goodnight.

(and excuse any typos…I’m just getting done for the night and I’ve got to get up at 6 something to make an early meeting)

–          Joc

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