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“Year In Review – 2013” – from the heart of Joc

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“Year In Review – 2013”

The parlance of my year has gone a little like this… 

I begin. 

January brought expectations of restoration from past hurts and failures

While the next 28 days of love brought the same ole same ole.

— but I’m not trippin.

March brought a few professional changes that put a pin to my pen and paper;

while the month that brought forth my birth

birthed a new logic of what true friendship really is.

 

Mother’s month highlighted the queen to my queen;

aligning up with the consistency of her love and enduring care.

Oh and June?

Death sparked my heart to open up just a little more than before,

while July doused flames of sky lit lullabies, reducing them to nothing but

smoldering embers.

 

August —

Touches from its breeze are still fresh on my skin,

the calm before the spin

down a bottle of

dejection.

 

The next few weeks invoked freedom from demons

Even though secrets still attempt to hang on for dear [life]…

The month with hollow faces brought a sweet sense of

Purpose;

While the second to last stirred up a

confidence and renewal.

 

…And here I am.

Writ in hand,

Ready to walk into the rest of my future.

 

Tattooed on my [Left] is a reminder…

To not fall for past hurts because

the heart that’s made to love me is on [his] way.

Etched in my soul is the determination and passion to reflect

no one but the [One] who saved me.

Behind the lenses of my eyes lies a resilience and faith

that will not back down.

On my back are the bruises from swindlers and abusers,

— they are all healed up now.

 

Under my feet is the red carpet prophesying to the stellar prospects that lie ahead.

Knock, knock.

I’m walking in.

 

– from the heart of Joc

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“The Anthem” ( and more) by Drew Chambers

The Anthem

Lord knows I love me some Drew Chambers! I’m blessed to not only say I’ve worked with him professionally, but to also call him one of my best friends! Support him ya’ll! – Joc

Here are some of his other videos:

Consume This Heart

And I

Fast Forward

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Have YOU Written Down Your Plan for 2014? I HAVE!

“Do you have a plan for 2014?! It’s important to plan for the future you want to live in!!! Write it down so that as you go through the new year you an refer back to it!!! You have time to set your goals for 2014!!!” – Dr. Irishea Hilliard

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Highlights from my personal 2014 goals list

–         Step into the door and get established in the creative career I need & want to be in

–         Move into a new place (super nice yet affordable)

–         Complete at least 1 personal photography project

–         Go on an extravagant trip

–         Go on an eclectic date with an eclectic guy who has greatness in his noggin and even more in his heart

zig–         Sing BGV on someone’s record or for someone’s showcase

–         Grow more in my Christ walk and become the woman I need to be

What’s on your list??!

– Joc

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Date Based on Your PRIORITIES Not Your PREFERENCES.

If you had the chance to see comedienne/actress Niecy Nash’s appearance on the Arsenio Hall Show, you heard when Arsenio asked Niecy about her matchmaking skills  (and she does have a proven track record folks). When asked what ‘the trick’ was, she said that for her personally, if she was serious about finding a husband, she needed to start dating for her priorities and instead of her preferences. 

One Essence.com contributor published the list he was inspired to write after watching the very same interview. He said that after hearing what Niecy had to say, and taking a glance at her book “It’s Hard to Fight Naked”, he realized that he didn’t know how to separate his priorities from his preferences.  To be honest, a lot of people in their 20s, 30s, and even 40s have no clue which is which either!

What is a priority?

A priority is something we feel is more important than something else.

What is a preference?

A preference is something we simply like (or prefer) more than something else

Personally, I feel tons of relationships that don’t need to happen…happen because [we] as a society have a hard time deciphering the difference between the two. Some of the blame can go towards ‘not being taught better’ or ‘simply not being exposed’; however, the ultimate blame lies with ourselves. With the age of the Internet in full force, it’s super easy to get a hold of scholarly articles and breakdowns that can help you in the love department. BUT whatever the case, from this day forward, Niecy has challenged us all…myself included! I’m in the place where I have a good handle on my priorities and preferences, but to make sure, I actually took the time to make a physical list. Yep, that’s right, yanked out a piece of computer paper, sat right on down and honestly thought about what’s most important to me in a boyfriend/husband.

When I was done, I was successfully able to group all that I like, want, and need in a man into a PRIORITIES list and a PREFERENCES list. Here is the finished result.

JOC’S PRIORITIES :

#1 – Christ driven man of God. // #2 Faithful, loving, & caring towards me & his family. // #3 Intelligent, schooled, & responsible. // #4 Humorous, thoughtful, & creative

JOC’S PREFERENCES:

#1 Attractive // #2 Tall ( > or = me in heels) // #3 College grad // #4 Career savvy // #5 Artsy

There are not many items in my preferences because even before I understood what preferences were (aka types), I always approached dating with an open mind. Now that I’m older and wiser however, I know that there are things you SHOULD NEVER stand for ( ie/ men who are emotionally unavailable, laziness, men who cheat & steal to get ahead) — but all in all, what I desire is pretty simple. I also want to point out that I know I can fulfill everything on my PRIORITY list — that’s vital. I can’t expect someone to be and do all of these things if I can’t do them myself, so I make sure I can fulfill MY OWN list! 

What’s on your list?! Transparency is the word for today!

-Joc

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Jokes Lasts But A Moment….But Social Media Is Forever!

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After MUCH backlash, this is how Justine Sacco (a Public Relations Executive for InterActiv Corp) had this to say in on time fashion:

“Words cannot express how sorry I am, and how necessary it is for me to apologize to the people of South Africa, who I have offended due to a needless and careless tweet,” Sacco said in the statement. “There is an AIDS crisis taking place in this country, that we read about in America, but do not live with or face on a continuous basis. Unfortunately, it is terribly easy to be cavalier about an epidemic that one has never witnessed firsthand.

“For being insensitive to this crisis — which does not discriminate by race, gender or sexual orientation, but which terrifies us all uniformly — and to the millions of people living with the virus, I am ashamed…”

Of all the people in the universe, SHE made this mistake! When will [we] learn as the public that we shouldn’t be so careless with our words??! Before you post ANYTHING on social media, think about who it may offend. If it will offend someone (these days everything you do will anger someone) weigh out if the offense that will be generated from your post will be worth it. For instance, as a Christian, I am not ashamed to post my beliefs on my personal page. I know some people who are of other faiths may disagree, but I make sure that everything I post is in a loving manner (even if it touches on a subject some may be difficult to discuss). This woman right here should have KNOWN that there was nothing sensitive about her post. Everything was blatant, blunt, ignorant, and hurtful. For her JOB description to be posted on her social media profile and for this tweet to show up in the Twitterverse is one of the dumbest moves I’ve seen in a while.  If you are going to make jokes like this, at least make sure no one knows who you are or who you work for. Geesh!

What are your thoughts?

– Joc

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Phil Robertson’s Response to “being let go”

This was Phil’s response to being let go!
Robertson has issued a statement in response:

“I myself am a product of the 60s; I centered my life around sex, drugs and rock and roll until I hit rock bottom and accepted Jesus as my Savior. My mission today is to go forth and tell people about why I follow Christ and also what the bible teaches, and part of that teaching is that women and men are meant to be together.

“However, I would never treat anyone with disrespect just because they are different from me. We are all created by the Almighty and like Him, I love all of humanity. We would all be better off if we loved God and loved each other.”

 

Very well said.

– Joc

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‘Duck Dynasty’ Star Suspended Indefinitely for Anti-Gay Remarks

(via Entertainment Weekly)

According to the report, A&E announced that Robertson would be placed “under hiatus from filming indefinitely” after making comments in GQ that sparked criticism from the gay community.

Robertson was quoted, saying, “Everything is blurred on what’s right and what’s wrong… Sin becomes fine. Start with homosexual behavior and just morph out from there. Bestiality, sleeping around with this woman and that woman and that woman and those men.”

He continued, ”It seems like, to me, a vagina — as a man — would be more desirable than a man’s anus, that’s just me,” Robertson said. ”I’m just thinking: There’s more there! She’s got more to offer. I mean, come on, dudes! You know what I’m saying? But hey, sin: It’s not logical, my man. It’s just not logical.”

Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation responded to the comments on Wednesday.

“Phil and his family claim to be Christian, but Phil’s lies about an entire community fly in the face of what true Christians believe,” GLAAD spokesman Wilson Cruz said in a statement.

A&E Networks said in a statement that Robertson’s “personal views in no way reflect those of A&E Networks, who have always been strong supporters and champions of the LGBT community.” Even the governor of Louisiana Bobby Jindal  felt compelled to respond via NBC News, “I don’t agree with quite a bit of stuff I read in magazine interviews or see on TV.  In fact, come to think of it, I find a good bit of it offensive; but I also acknowledge that this is a free country and everyone is entitled to express their views.  In fact, I remember when TV networks believed in the First Amendment. It is a messed up situation when Miley Cyrus gets a laugh, and Phil Robertson gets suspended.”

I’d be interested in hearing the thoughts of my Christian followers on this. 

An old classmate of mine posted this status,I love the phrase “I was born gay” like it should automatically be accepted in society. Well, I was born to steal, cheat, lie, gossip, lust and many other things but it doesn’t mean that I get to go out and do it. Being gay does not make you a bad person just as disagreeing with the lifestyle doesn’t make us judgmental and blind. – B.Johnson” 

My bulleted thoughts on these recent events:

#1

I am a Christian who hates sin, but loves the sinner. Therefore, while I disagree with all sexually immoral/sinful lifestyles (homosexuality, fornication, prostitution) I still love and respect people as people. I am able to interact and work with those individuals despite how I feel morally. Even thinking on individuals in my family; I don’t always agree with the choices they make or their willingness to knowingly participate in sinful activities, but I still love them at the end of the day. I can still laugh and joke with them all the same. But they know that I’m not going to give them a high five when it comes to certain things.

#2

I could respect the network’s actions more if they could actually say that they were surprised by Phil Robertson’s interview. I don’t even watch the show regularly but know that the entire Robertson clan is a “no pulls, no punches” type of clan when it comes to their Christian faith. In other words, they are not ashamed. So the network KNEW exactly who they were hiring when they agreed to launch the show. Don’t act surprised now!

#3

A lot of people who live ‘variant’ lifestyles tend to lash out and use the word “tolerate” out of context.  If a brand or individual praises and openly accepts lifestyles that include premarital sex, polygamy, or homosexuality – they are just the bees knees. They are exalted for “speaking up and out for the underdogs”. But if a brand or individual speaks up against a variant lifestyle they are bashed, boycotted, called ignorant, and labeled “intolerant”. The definition of tolerant is, “showing willingness to allow the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with.”  Me disagreeing with your chosen lifestyle does not make me intolerant. You may not agree with my lifestyle as a Christian, but I won’t call you intolerant — I’ll let you have your opinion and keep it moving. So the fact that Phil Robertson disagrees with certain lifestyles and voiced his belief aloud, does NOT make him intolerant or bigoted. 

#4

If you don’t agree, turn the station. If I don’t agree with the morals of certain television shows or websites or radio shows — I simple turn the dial. I would be naive to not understand that freedom of speech applies to everyone. Even to the people who may not like me because of my skin color. At the end of the day, they are going to think what they think unless they allow God to change their heart, so I keep it moving. If a movie comes on where a girl is tricking on a corner and it offends me…I will turn it off. If a homosexual love scenes pops up in a television show, I will simply turn the station. If a song comes on the radio and every other word is **bleep this** and **bleep that**, I’ll turn to another station. 

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