Monthly Archives: June 2015

I Wouldn’t Tell – PC4M Spoken Word Piece by Poet J”O”

Did you watch every second like I did, hanging on to every bit of composure you had; trying not to snap out loud in public?!

When I said I was stone faced silent at the end of this piece…I mean it! This is one of THE most POWERFUL pieces/testimonies I’ve heard in a while! If you’ve read my blog, you already know where I stand on this homosexuality, grace, and all the above. If you know this, then you know that while homosexuality was never my thing, premarital sex (aka fornication) was. I’ve been free of it and celibate going on 6 years. I can vouch that whatever YOUR vice is…you can be delivered from it. 

229008_slider-istock_000017949870large1Because sin is in the world, and we are born into a world where it exists, we are often attacked my various spirits and temptations early on in life. No one is born a hoe. No one is born homosexual. No one is born a drug addict — you can be predisposed to it because of how your early upbringing is….but never born with it. It’s a choice. Most every decision we are confronted with daily is a choice.

I am simply in awe of this guy’s story though. The fact that GRACE carried him through his struggle until he could get free is just borderline breathtaking. God is SO good and will help those who want help. Even if all you can muster out is a ‘Jesus’ or ‘Help’ — that’s enough for God to dispatch His angels to lift you up from the pit of willful sin you’ve been living in. Some people won’t agree with this and think that they are fine…but that’s just because their hearts have been hardened.

If you read about the times in the bible where God hardens the heart (ie/ Pharaoh and the Red Sea) you’ll see that God does not MAKE these people’s hearts hard and cold, but yet took His hand of love off of them. 229008_slider-istock_000017949870large1

You see if we as God’s children keep acting like we’re big and bad enough to do whatever we want and keep denying God, then He will throw up His hands and say “fine…I’m not going to FORCE you to love Me and follow my commandments.” I am not lying to you when I say THIS IS SO REAL! I remember the VERY moment I felt God taking His hand off of me. I was hanging with some people I had no business hanging around, and partaking in activities that a Christian had no business partaking in. Someone said to me “You don’t have to do this if you don’t want to. [We] want you to, but we know you [saved] and all.”  — my reply was this:

I’m grown. I know exactly what I’m doing.

BOOM. My life changed forever. God began removing His hand from my life and I hit ROCK bottom…I mean below sea level bottom…dirt in my mouth bottom. That’s a TERRIBLE feeling knowing that you don’t have God’s ultimate protection any more. I thought freedom was living life the way I wanted to, doing anything I felt like doing — but that’s not freedom at all. It was actually a form of mental bondage. Naivete at it’s greatest.

229008_slider-istock_000017949870large1So I will close with this… again, whatever your vice is, it doesn’t have to be one. You can be free of it. There are some of you reading this who are totally fine with actively living a sinful / worldly lifestyle and hey, that’s between you and God to work out on judgement day. BUT I know what the word of God says, and I believe that every page is God breathed and YWH inspired. It’s nothing to play with and is just as relevant today as it’s ever been. Live wisely. Be free. Choose freedom.

1 Corinthians 6:9 Or do you not know that the unrighteousb will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality,c 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

1 Corinthians 6:15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? Never! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joinedd to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” 17 But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. 18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sine a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.19 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own,20 for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

– Be blessed, Joc

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7 Things I learned from Smokey Robinson’s BET Awards Acceptance Speech

7 Things I learned from Smokey Robinson’s BET Awards Acceptance Speech

#1 Always remembered God is the center of all. During his acceptance speech, Smokey referenced God. I’m not sure if you noticed, but it took almost 40 minutes for someone to reference God when getting an award and after someone FINALLY did…Smokey gave an acceptance speech that was basically an opened, unashamed prayer to God – and guess what… NOBODY checked Him. That is powerful right there. When you stay true to God (YWH) and are not ashamed to give Him glory for the wonderful things he’s done in your life….no one can shut you up. I’m pretty sure there were people in that awards room that weren’t Christian or have different views on God, but Smokey gave the platform God gave him to speak and he was respected by everyone in there.

#2 Know the importance of biblical marriage roles. Smokey knows the importance of a wife as a help meet…not just having someone to ‘sex when he feels’. I saw Rihanna, Diddy, Christina Milian, and others look on in admiration as Smokey gave praises to his wife for all that she is to him. A relationship like that doesn’t happen by chance. I’m sure they had their rough patches over the time they’ve been together, but Smokey understands the boundaries of marriage and the importance of support. He recognizes that he was not meant to do life alone. A HUGE problem with modern day entertainers in particular is that they allow their personal lives to be swallowed up by the fame that surrounds them. This allows cracks in their relationships to be shredded open and infiltrated by haters and side hoes, and cheaters. You’ve got to protect your relationship and truly understand that marriage is nothing to play with. It’s a serious covenant that shouldn’t be entered into lightly or taken as a joke. You can’t wham…bam…thank you maam every girl you meet and rap or sing about how many hoes you have and expect to have a HEALTHY, happy relationship. You can’t expect to be singing about being 2 On and faded and drugged up yet then expect to be RESPECTED by men and taken seriously.  It simply doesn’t happen like that.

#3 Remember it’s not all about you. If you take a look at Smokey Robinson’s career AND this most recent acceptance speech, you’ll see that he is high off life and not haughty. I’m sure papa Smokey has his vice or two, but he doesn’t need to get high or drunk to deliver quality rhythm and blues. So many artists today depend on drugs and alcohol to keep them going on these tours and it just isn’t the same. Smokey understands that fans pay their hard earned money for his concerts, and wants to give them his best. He doesn’t have time to wreck his voice in the name of partying every night and blowing money. This love of life is reflected in his lyrics as well. He never sang about banging this chick…and shooting up this house…and killing this dude….and smacking that hoe – he wrote about love and life. These folk here belting their hearts out about casual sex, lack of commitment, and how much money they have.  They aren’t truly thinking of the fans…just surface sales. If they cared about their fans, they’d give them music to last….like Smokey.

#4 Be genuine

#5 Keep it real. Smokey put those new age entertainers on blast tonight! I’m not naming names, but you know the ones who PLAY fans like they’re God or something (and God wouldn’t play them). He called attention to the fact that NONE of the entertainers ANYWHERE would be who or where they are without God number one…but also the fans. He spoke about the fact entertainers today need to remember that they could be gone in a second. Their careers could be dust in a matter of a year. Smokey sees what’s going on, and had no problem instantly becoming EVERY in the building’s papa for a moment. We (who aren’t entertainers) can take this into our personal life and remember not to get puffed up because of that promotion, or the fact that we have direct reports…our jobs and careers could be here today and gone tomorrow, so we need to treat people with respect and love on those around us. Appreciate them. Don’t be a jerk.

#6 Remember your place in the chain of life. Smokey told all the entertainers “don’t be so full of yourselves.”  This is self-explanatory .  He laid out the fact in black and white that the entertainers of today aren’t the “first to do it” nor will they be the end all be all of the music industry. There will be someone behind them that will take the reins. So many millennials don’t pay the respect they should to older entertainers who have paved the way for them. They don’t utilize their platform to fight for black rights, and social justice – some seem to forget that they aren’t in the entertainment business to JUST make money…they’re in the thing (or should be rather) to touch people’s lives and make a POSITIVE difference. I’m not naming names again, but I see more artists causing social media drama instead of doing what they need to do. We all have to remember that we have a limited time on earth, and we need to make a positive, godly mark while we can.

#7 Be classic. Smokey Robinson’s class and style is never fading because he recognizes who and WHOSE he is. HE had Brandy crying ….that’s enough right there. People who folks today consider to be icons look up to him because he’s the truth. When he got up to perform, EVERYONE in the place sang the lyrics to his songs…young and old. People who weren’t even alive when he first started singing knew his songs and were touched by them. That says something. That inspires me to keep going when times get rough to nurture and cultivate the gifts God has placed inside of me. God doesn’t create us to be ordinary and carbon copies of each other; He desires greatness for us. We just have to position ourselves to receive His directions.

– Be Blessed, Jocelyn

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Joc Sees Jurassic World — EPIC!

I was able to catch the early release of the new film Jurassic World last night with my family and I just had the TIME OF MY LIFE!

A black poster featuring a red shield with a stylized Tyrannosaurus skeleton under a plaque reading "Jurassic Park". Below is the tagline "An Adventure 65 Million Years In the Making".

I have been a lifelong Jurassic Park fan, and this film just took me back to my childhood — I didn’t want the night to end~ the directors/producers did it again with this perfect mix of the Jurassic Park of old and new age — proving that the classic movie plots/lines will always be just that…classic. My niece (who is in high school) could not understand why I was SO amped about seeing this movie, but it really did my heart good to see her enjoy something I enjoyed as a kid.


In my opinion the third Jurassic Park was a little so-so …I think the only thing I really liked about that film was the fact that they brought Dr. Alan Grant back but other than that…. eh it was a little blahzay. Being the franchise fan that I am, I decided to give this new film a chance and boy it did NOT disappoint! To make last night even more memorable, I saw a guy I went to PRESCHOOL with who was autistic and was obsessed with Jurassic park back when we were kids…and the fact that I saw him last night at THAT movie premiere of all places just really made me not want to go back to the grown up world for a few days. haha

I would definitely suggest any Jurassic Park fans to go see this and introduce this world to their kids. With technology today, it’s rare that kids get to appreciate something that’s NOT a computer or social media game. Casting was great. Directing was superb. FIVE STARS!

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JoyFest 2015 – Carowinds

Just because I felt like sharing! I had a BLAST at JoyFest 2015! I’ve been going on and off since I was in elementary school and it keeps getting better!

Jonathan McReynolds

Dee – 1

Tamela Mann

David Mann

Fred Hammond

Tye Tribbett

— Bone Hampton — all great!

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I did this in a leadership class ….

I did this in a leadership class I’m currently taking. It’s pretty good stuff! The Type Of Person You Will Go For According To Your Myers-Brigg Personality Type: Every Myers-Briggs personality…

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Sex Demons & Soul Ties: What are YOU Allowing Into Your Life?

I saw this photo and status via a Facebook friend this morning on my break that read:

A must read for those who think sex demons are a joke. The only one laughing is the devil. U can be set free, but why go through needing deliverance, when it is better to ask the Holy Spirit to increase your discernment. IF u have already connected with or even married some one with this spirits, you both can be cleansed.

LADIES be careful of the Men you let into your heart and enter your body. Sex is not only a physical exchange– it is also a spiritual exchange. Sex is powerful and a direct pathway into your temple. Some of you can’t get over that low life of a man because the demons he carries within him still torment you spiritually. You KNOW in your gut that even though he looks attractive…something about him ain’t right. Yet, something still keeps luring you to him. Your mind and body wrestles back and forth with spiritual principalities and “sexual soul ties.” Sexual soul ties BIND you to that man, men his type and the dark spirits that follow him. Some women often wonder why the SAME type of dude always pursue them… Why they ATTRACT the same type of guy after they got rid of the scum bag that plagued their life.. Its that FAMILIAR Spirit he left with You !!! BE CAREFUL who you open yourself up to receive in your bed. — “If He ain’t Prayed Up, Don’t be Laid Up!”

Beware, this is a cunning one….‪#‎thebloodofJesus. ‪#‎Hecametosetthecaptivesfree


I can vouch FIRST HAND that soul ties are REAL! They are as real as I am sitting here typing these words on this blog! It took me THREE years to be totally free of the soul ties from my last relationship. I wish I could say dating and physical ties are only a matter of the heart, but they are much more — they’re a matter of the soul and spirit.

Now that I’ve been celibate for going on 5 years (and counting), I truly have been able to have the space and time to actually think about the PRACTICAL importance in waiting for marriage before having sex AND the importance of looking at the full picture before making the vow to marry someone. You have to take the time to explore your significant other’s past and really pay attention to any red flags. Too many times people make excuses for being with someone because they are comfortable with who they’re with; or because they simply tire of being single. I know because I used to be guilty of it! This fact, combined with the ever diminishing morals of our society, lead us to feel like sexual acts are “expected” when navigating a relationship. After having sex with someone, we grow in the feeling that we are MEANT to be close to this person. WE can’t get them off of our minds. We ‘love’ them. No one can compare to them. We care more for them than we want to and we don’t know why. If we hold on a little longer, they will change…. blah blah blah.

All of that mental anguish, confusion and contradiction is a result of — a soul tie.

If you’re a follower of Christ as I am, you know that the Bible tells us to abstain from sex until marriage (Hebrews 13:4). The reason is actually more practical (aka real life) than you would imagine. God intended for marriages to be strong. To be between one man and one woman.  For spouses to support each other and populate the earth. He designed us in a way that once we entered marriage with our spouse, we’d become one. He INTENDED for our souls to join together. (1 Corinthians 7:2, 1 Thessalonians 4:3, Leviticus 18:22)

Now think about your last sexual (relation)ship that occurred with someone who was not your spouse. Do you honestly think God would want you to become one with that person? Do they actually deserve you!?! If you’re currently married to someone who is abusive or unfaithful and you can’t seem to understand why….did you allow sex to blind you before you actually married them? Could you have actually saved yourself from months and years of pain by getting out of the relationship before you even got to the altar?

I’m not saying everyone is bad and that you’re automatically going to hell without redemption if you have ever had sex before marriage. What I AM saying is that if you, like me, did not wait — you still have the power to make the choice to stop. If you still have your virginity that is AMAZING, and I want to say that I am proud of you. Keep going! Keep waiting until marriage. It may seem hard holding on to your V-Card, but TRUST ME WHEN I SAY, it’s even HARDER getting of a soul tie. (Matthew 12:43-45) By allowing soul ties to connect us to someone who is not our spouse, we open up the door for the sin of sexual immorality to come shipwreck our lives. Yes we can always ask for forgiveness from the sin we do. Yes everyone sins at some point during their lifetime. But it’s still not excusable to WILLINGLY participate in acts that are not pleasing to God. If you adopt a sexually promiscuous lifestyle and connect with people sexually OUTSIDE of the marriage bed, not only are you hurting God’s heart…not only disrespecting the will of our Lord….you are spiritually and physically opening up yourself to spirits that mean you no good.

If you’re reading this and you are in a sexually active relationship right now; have a talk with your significant other about stopping (or at least easing out of having) sex. This will allow you to TRULY get to know them because keeping it ALLLLLLL the way real, we tend to look over and deal with some mess for the sake of our physical relationships. I’m just being honest! If you say you don’t then you’re lying to yourself and whoever else you tell that to!

Though I didn’t wait for marriage to have sex, I spent an entire year getting to know the guy I was certain I’d spend my life with — without having sex. That’s how I knew I loved him FOR REAL. There was nothing distracting me. Unfortunately distance and other factors caused us to break up, but I am almost certain that if we started our relationship off with sex, we’d still be in some hyper dysfunctional relationship now! What I’m trying to say is sex is worth the wait. I’ve been on both sides of the fence, and I’d rather experience physical intimacy with someone I know I’d have the rest of my life to spend growing with. Sex within marriage is a gift of a deep connection from God — don’t mess it up by getting tied to a demon.

– Be Blessed, Joc


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Get To Know [Him]

Life has not slowed down for me lately. Major decisions have still been peeking their head around the corner as to say “Hey, don’t forget you’ve still got to deal with me! Okay, just wanted to make sure I was on your mind. Alright I’ll be here waiting for you!” On top of that, daily life hasn’t gotten any less….active.

I’ve been doing a pretty good job, managing things — only by the grace and strength of God — but it wasn’t until I experienced a family emergency over the past couple of weeks that I was really able to get a blast of “knowledge”. That blast was the knowledge that there is SO much more for me to do for the kingdom of Christ that I haven’t tapped into. I have been running dangerously close to running spiritually low; and for any Christian, that is one of the worst things that can happen depending on how much “hope and faith and authority” you feel you’ve got in your “tank”. Thankfully, I was filled up to almost full when this recent wave of life hit, but now that I’ve had a chance to sit back and look at people throwing praises for Bruce Jenner, talking about selfies and fashion, disregarding the tragedies that happen in our backyard daily; I realize that I can not afford to run dry. As a Christian living in today’s society I have to step it up because people need to hear the truth and at least have a chance to be convicted (as it convicts me daily).

1 John 2:3-6 says, “We know that we have come to know Him if we keep His commands. Whoever says, “I know him,” but does not do what He commands is a liar, and the truth is not in that person. But if anyone obeys His word, love for God is truly made complete in them. This is how we know we are in Him: Whoever claims to live in Him must live as Jesus did.”

What John (of Zebedee) was saying in this passage is so true and most importantly inspired by God. There are so many people THIS day proclaiming to be sons and daughters of God ONLY when it’s convenient for them. This is really no new news, but it’s amping up as the years go on. I remember reading the end time prophecies as a kid and thinking, “Christianity is so large now, there is no way people are going to do this. How can you claim to be a Christian but not really follow and pattern your life after Christ”, YET here we are, 2015 and beyond and it’s happening! People use the term Christian when it’s convenient. They proudly display Christ when talking about someone else, but when it comes to their own stuff, suddenly sing a new tune….

Talking to someone else – “Oh they need Jesus, stealing from those kids”

Talking about them – “Oh you don’t agree with gay marriage?! You’re a biggot. God is love and wants me to marry whoever I see fit.”

Talking about someone else – “Those terrorists blowing stuff up and killing folks! Oh God please help us! Glad I got Jesus.”

Talking about them – “So what if I got 10 baby mamas and I sell dope and I sleep with anything with a pulse. God know my heart.”

I don’t think I need to go on. If you identify yourself as a Christian, you are going to have to let go of some things that you want to hold onto. Contrary to popular belief, life doesn’t get easier when you give your life to Christ (aka get saved) — if anything it gets HARDER! It’s easy to fling Christ’s name around in a prayer or two when we’re in trouble, but it’s actual WORK when you have to let that alcoholism go, and let those cheating ways go, and let those sticky fingers go — it’s work. You can’t just USE God’s name when it’s convenient. That’s just like you making it to the NBA and your deadbeat father who was never in your life was out slinging your name around, “yeah that’s my kid, love them with my life”. You would be mad wouldn’t you?! Why? Because he wouldn’t know anything about you and would be doing nothing but trying to cash in on the benefits of simply knowing ABOUT you.

That’s how you look being a “convenient Christian”. You don’t spend anytime truly trying to learn God through church, bible study, and prayer — and you don’t “hang out with Him” (aka living a righteous lifestyle) — and yet here you are making Him look bad by slinging His name around whenever you feel like it. “Oh yeah, God’s my homie.” “I know I don’t really get down with Him like that but naw He’ll come through for this miracle if I call on Him just this one good time.”

I take PAINS and go to GREAT measures to not be this type of Christian, and it’s my sincere prayer that you are doing the same. Take the time to get to know God so you can know His promises for your life and what you need to do to ensure you are truly walking right and following Him! There is NO way you can go on the snippets of scriptures you hear little by little — you should WANT to read to understand the Holy Bible because it’s simply a blueprint for living the good life!

I’m glad I had this “come to Jeusus moment” — I don’t want to wait til the water runs dry to realize I need more of [Him]. ❤

Be blessed

– Joc


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