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5 Things Marriage Has Taught Me ( by Saviela Edwards Thorne)

What is Marriage?

A new marriage is like a blank page staring at you. It’s ready for you to write your story on it. Its new, fresh and the beginning of something so beautiful only if we allow God to be the author. Many times we rush to the altar because we believe in our minds and our heart that this is “The One” without consulting God. Marriage is ordained and created by the one true God and an institution that the devil with all his might is trying to destroy. A Godly Marriage is not just for two people who desire to be married but it’s an example of the fellowship between God and His people.

The Design of Marriage:

The unity of marriage is a visual representation of the kingdom of God. As God be the head, the husband being the covering (head over the home) and the wife is the teacher and nurturer of her children (Ephesians 5:23). God’s design in marriage was never for the woman to be the head of over the man. The Garden of Eden is where the deconstruction of the unity of marriage began when Adam allowed his wife, Eve to doubt what God told him. Eve over stepped her boundary by manipulating the word of God to get what she wanted from Adam. Isn’t this just like some wives today to try to change up the situation and to manipulate their husbands to do what they want him to do instead of following the original plan. Since the original plan was destroyed through curiosity, lust and greed, the word of God clearly tells the woman, “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”  Genesis 3:16.  Only when we as wives decide to completely submit to our husbands as our husbands completely submit to God will we find a sense of peace in our homes and spirits. married couple

RESPECT

Ephesians 5:33, “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband”

This is one word that I completely failed at when I was first married. I thought I knew what it was to RESPECT my husband unfortunately I didn’t. I fought against him and what he would ask me to do if I didn’t see it his way. I became Eve. It wasn’t until I was convicted in my spirit that I realized I was so wrong and I sinned against God and my husband by not RESPECTING him. Once I submitted my will to my husband as he submitted his will to God, then there was harmony and unity and we begin to see God work in miraculous ways. God opened doors for us that no man can shut. He proved to us that in order for him to work through us, we must first SUBMIT to Him. This is by no means a bad word. To me, it’s a beautiful word because it shows me how much strength I have to submit my will and way to another. This is just like God all he wants us to do is submit to him so he can work through us.

Marriage is not designed just to make you Happy

I’ve heard so many couples separate or divorce their spouse because they just weren’t “Happy” with them anymore. Happiness is based on what is currently happening. If happiness is the goal in marriage then what happens when we can’t stand each other? Is that grounds for divorce? There are going to be times in marriage when you are frustrated with each other for whatever reason. It’s important FORGIVE and to move forward quickly in order for you to remain in good standing with the Lord and each other as stated in St. Matthew 6:14-15, “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” The longer a situation is delayed the longer the devil has to come in and work on your mind. We are instructed to leave NO space for the devil (Ephesians 4:26-27).  What are some reasons why couples become unhappy and grow apart? In some cases, they allow the spark of romance to decease and find other things to occupy their time and energy rather than spending quality time with their spouse. Sometimes it can be career, children or even the ministry. God desire is for there to be unity within the marriage because with unity there is strength. He wants us to grow together in him which will in turn cause us to grow together with each other. He also wants us to fulfill each other’s needs in all area “The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs” 1 Corinthians 7:3 NLT. *Side note* Here are a few ways to bring back the romance in a marriage: reminisce on the time when you were courting, look at old pictures together, give each other a massage, take a trip together just the two of you, go on a date, surprise each other with your favorite things, just simply tell each other what you love about each other and remember it’s the little things that counts.

Never Give Up

Please take a moment to read the New Living Translation version of I Corinthians 13:4-8 with your spouse. The verse that brought me to repentance was verse 7 )”Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.” God is so faithful even when we aren’t. His love is continual even in our consistent sin. I’m so glad I never gave up on my husband when we went through our tough times and he didn’t give up on me and I am even more grateful that Christ didn’t give up on both of us and kept us together.

These are just a few things out of the many things I’ve learned in my short time being married to my wonderful husband. We are not perfect but we are definitely perfect for each other. Handcrafted and designed by God just for one another. Our prayer is for God to continue to do His will in our lives and allow our marriage to be an example of his perfect love for His Church.

– See more by Saviela Edwards Thorne at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2015/02/27/5-things-marriage-has-taught-me/#sthash.G7ZItFDk.dpuf  

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PART 2 of Leandria Johnson Periscope Rant — Thoughts & Reflections

(continued from https://jocsnotebook.wordpress.com/2015/09/09/leandria-johnson-periscope-rant-thoughts-reflections/ )

Ms. Johnson is also bold in forgetting that she is or used to be a “pastor”. She says in the video (see prior post) that she’s not “scared of nobody”!!

Okayyyy???Waka-Flocka-Ok..

She needs to be scared of God! A godly WITNESS is VITAL to the Christian faith — especially these days. In Matthew 5:16 ESV the bible reads,“In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” And we can’t forget Isaiah 43:10 ESV in which Christ says,“You are my witnesses,” declares the Lord, “and my servant whom I have chosen, that you may know and believe me and understand that I am he. Before me no god was formed, nor shall there be any after me.”

I, like many others, can’t believe she even did this Periscope cast. She is essentially INVITING the public into her home, then lashing out at them when they don’t agree. There’s a difference between struggling and actively sinning. As we learned in my first post, drunkenness is not something God desires for us — because it not only spiritually corrupts us, but physically causes us to do STUPID stuff. Leandria is cursing and criticizing people for crucifying her saying that she is just “keeping it real in her own house” — she said she was a FRIGGIN “pastor”!!

Watching the video, I said to myself, did she “conveniently” skip James 3:1 which says, “Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness”. Teachers and preachers of the gospel are POINT BLANK held to a higher standard than the “ordinary” Christian. By accepting the call to leadership, you are basically telling God and the world that you will take on the task of being responsible for the spiritual upbringing and nurturing of Christians , old and new. By accepting pastoralship, you acknowledge that you understand some people will look to how you live your life as a ‘benchmark’ as they work on getting strong in Christ for themselves. You’re also saying that you will not do or say anything contrary the word of God and be careful not to lead them astray.

If you can’t do this…you don’t need to be a pastor or in leadership. No ifs, ands, or buts. You can still be effective in the world; but you’re just not ready to lead if you can’t get down with the basics.

I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all struggled with something in the past and it’s not always easy to live right; NOR does seem fair to “give certain things up” but DANG Jesus took on the ENTIRE cross! The least we could do as Pastor Jerome Gay Jr of Vision Church RDU says, is to “take a shot” of the cup Christ  (Matthew 20:22 ESV) drank for us. Being a Christian means you have to be set apart….we all have to come to terms with this and find the joy in it.

I pray Leandria gets some good spiritual counsel soon. She has a POWERFUL gift that was clearly given by God. We know it and satan knows it. I hope a word is said to wake her up before God has to. And speaking from personal experience…there is NOTHING fun about having to have God wake you up for you to do right!

Be blessed ya’ll,

— Joc

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Leandria Johnson Periscope Rant — Thoughts & Reflections

The video you see above is A LOT to take in….I mean A LOT!

If you’re familiar with the show Sunday’s Best, you’ll know that the drunk woman in the video cursing people out is Season 3 winner Leandria Johnson. If you missed hearing her story while competing on the show, here’s a crash course:

  • she was a single mother of 3 (now 4)
  • she was officially homeless because she was kicked out of her house not long before auditions
  • she had hit rock bottom and figured, why not try out
  • she was desperate to feel God and truly showed how low she had gotten while singing her testimony
  • she became the winner of Sunday Best in 2010 and went from homeless to superstar overnight
  • she won a Grammy the next year, 2011
  • she still stayed drinking, sexing, clubbing, and doing drugs even though her Christian witness was now on display
  • she got pregnant with her most recent child in 2012
  • she said she was “done” with her old life and felt the “call” to ministry in 2013
  • ….not just “ministry” but she felt called to pastor a church IPC (Imperfect People Changing)
  • she began her “street” ministry by encouraging night walkers and druggies to exchange weed for cigarettes…even smoking them along side these people to show them — despite the harmful effects smoking has on the body
  • she “surprisingly” lost her church to foreclosure after a year or so

….and now there is what happened last night on Periscope. The video that you see above.

In the video she’s admittedly drunk (turnt) off of Patron (alcohol, not wine); and while she isn’t at the club or party, she’s still publicly drunk. People don’t realize that doing something on social media #1 invites people into your life #2 is the same as doing or saying something on the street in public. Social media is SUPPOSED to reflect who you are in real life. So for her to curse folk out criticizing her for her actions and  correcting in love is foolery.

Ephesians 5:18 ESV says “And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit,” – now we know all they had back then was wine, but now it can include whatever alcoholic/strong beverage we have in modern day.

1 Corinthians 6:10 ESV says “Nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”

Romans 14:21 ESV says “It is good not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything that causes your brother to stumble.”

and Proverbs 23:20-21 ESV says “Be not among drunkards or among gluttonous eaters of meat, for the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty, and slumber will clothe them with rags.”

She perverts and misuses scripture as well — which is one of the MOST DANGEROUS things you can do regarding God and His word (especially if you proclaim to be a Christian). At least that’s how I feel about it.

She also goes in on folk who don’t agree with her by calling them fake. NO God does not want us to be fake about our struggles, BUT we need to not abuse grace, and use it for what it’s there for — which is to buy us a little time to CORRECT our mistakes and change our actions so we can totally live to please God. It’s not to use as a watered down excuse to ACTIVELY do wrong over, and over. yet still profess Christ.

I heard someone say, as a Christian, living a sinful life and being under grace should be like getting out of debt. We don’t want to be in debt our entire lives, so we work hard to get out and stay out. The same should be with sinful living. And I’ll go and add my 2 cents on that one — when we’re in debt, yes, we enjoy the nice clothes and things we buy that keep us further into debt; but at the end of the day we are still in a bad place. So we work hard to exercise discipline and self control on our spending, sell some things, remove some things that aren’t necessary, and we work our way out of debt. When we’re out, we use what we learned in that ‘debt freedom’ process and put it to use so we’ll NEVER go back. The SAME thing should go for our struggles with drunkenness, fornication, premarital sex, homosexuality, lying, envying, cheating — yeah those things may be satisfying to some up front, but on the back end our soul is dying and we’re disappointing God. We should get rid of these practices from our lives and remove ourselves from environments or people who encourage these lifestyles. Once we’re free, we need to use the self control we’ve built over that ‘purging’ process and STAY FREE from a sinful lifestyle! There is a difference between slipping up and doing something over and over.

( to be continued on the next post….)

— Joc

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